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Post by naughtynikki on Jan 15, 2007 18:36:33 GMT -5
i cannot stand angelina !
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Post by wych on Jan 15, 2007 18:42:37 GMT -5
I didn't bond with my son for some time after he was born. It's NOT completely abnormal not to bond with a baby, you know.
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Post by Mochamom3 on Jan 15, 2007 18:49:42 GMT -5
I didn't bond with my son for some time after he was born. It's NOT completely abnormal not to bond with a baby, you know. I agree with you. I had a friend who felt such horrible guilt that she wasn't "bonding" with her newborn. I think that people feel such shame over it.I actually applaud her for coming out in the open about it. Every mother waits for their " Madonna"(no not the singer) with their newborn,and some just never get it. It doesn't make them horrible parents.They still LOVE their little ones. JMHO
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Post by illumination70 on Jan 15, 2007 19:59:50 GMT -5
She also said she wasn't planning on getting pregnant, "got knocked up". I no longer buy the "unplanned pregnancy" crap with all the education and forms of BC which is available to the privileged types in our society. Call me paranoid, but with all Angelina had to gain from a "unplanned pregnancy", I have a REAL tough time believing hers was one of those.
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Post by wych on Jan 15, 2007 20:55:31 GMT -5
I had also had an unplanned pregnancy. I was on the pill and I only have one fallopian tube.
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Post by jaipie on Jan 15, 2007 21:22:26 GMT -5
I didn't bond with my son for some time after he was born. It's NOT completely abnormal not to bond with a baby, you know. This is NOT uncommon at all, just not talked about much. I've known several mothers who had this same experience, and they are by no means bad mothers. I also had an unplanned pregnancy while on the pill. It DOES happen to "privileged, educated types" and does NOT mean the baby is any less wanted.
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Post by enviedlady11 on Jan 15, 2007 21:23:25 GMT -5
That was a pretty shitty thing for her to say. It shows the clear delineation she makes in her mind between the children she "rescued" and the one that she just gave birth to. She definitely must think that she is saving the third world, one adoption at a time.
She has a serious case of Martyr Syndrome.
I'm sorry, but seeing her son in toddler Sex Pistols tees and $300 jeans does not make him more vulnerable than a newborn.
What a twit.
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Post by enviedlady11 on Jan 15, 2007 21:25:41 GMT -5
As for the lack of bonding thing, I know it happens to many mothers. Lots of things can contribute to those feelings -- no judgment whatsoever on that. I know I had those feelings at some point with both my sons. But Angelina...she is still a twit.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 15, 2007 21:48:04 GMT -5
@ EnviedLady11..I agree with you 1,000% and I also agree with the bonding issue. I myself, had a REALLY hard time the first 3 months with my newborn daughter, and I am still (10 months later) feeling a tremendous amount of guilt for it. Although, I never considered her a "blob". I also agree with what illumination70 said about unplanned pregnancy. In Wych's and jaipie's case, those were definitely unplanned pregnancies. It's those people who (have no health/pregnancy issues) say they hadn't planned on getting pregnant or what have you, and when you ask them about birth control, they say they weren't on any. WHAT............
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Post by taylorsmom on Jan 15, 2007 21:58:51 GMT -5
it's not the bonding things that irks me.. It's that she called her baby a blob with no personality and that she just got knocked up that irks me..
All I can say hope her feeling change soon.. But that probably won't until the baby is about six months old and starts getting a personality based on her adopted kids.
I wonder what Brads feeling are on all this..
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