Kids and Thank yous

[Denise7609]

My nephew (18) has been gone for over two weeks and still not a thank you or even a phone call for everything we and my mom & dad did for him!
Long story short, he got in trouble and my dad got him a lawyer then had him come out here (from California) helped him get some new clothes and gave him some light work to do. He beeaatched and moaned the whole time he was here about how he wanted to go home. He pretty much stayed at my house the whole time he was here.
SO! Do you make your kids send thank you cards when people do nice things for them or send them something? At this point we would have liked a phone call. I know with my girls when someone does something nice for them or sends them something they're really good about sending a card or giving that person a thank you call.
I'm just pissed and kinda hurt.

[marksbird]

First thing to ask yourself is if you did a nice thing for his parents would you get a card from them? If they don't do it you can be sure that he wouldn't do it. If they aren't influenced/trained into doing things like that (or see other family do it) they won't continue that gesture.

My niece & nephew had thank you christmas cards to us within 5 days of Christmas. But we never heard a peep out of the other 6 niece/nephews. All in the upbringing and responsibility taught.

Plus if he is going through a rocky stage right now a card thanking you is last on his list. Just know you did a good thing and he'll look back later and appreciate it even more than he does/did now.

[starry]

marksbird said:

All in the upbringing and responsibility taught.

Exactly!!!

[Kahlua]

Out of courtesy, he should have at least called to say Thanks for Everything you did for him. But then again we're talking about a teenager - well he's 18, darn it, he knows better!!!
At least his mom or someone at home should tell him to call.

You have every right to be ticked off! I dont wanna say, but I think he's ungrateful.

((((HUGS)))))

[La Princess]

He should definitely thank. A card is better. My parents always made me thank everytime someone got me something. We had cards just for this purpose.

[Dani]

He should have been thanking you while he was there.
Everyday when he woke up to when he fell asleep.
But that's just me.

[nooks1]

A little thank you would have been nice but then he didn't exactly sound very grateful when he stayed with you.

[KimK]

Denise, try not to be hurt. You did a good deed and you should feel good about that even if it isn't yet appreciated. I wish more parents today would teach manners such as thank you letters. I think it really sets a tone for the kind of person they will become.

[dmulcahy]

I would be pissed! I hate to sound like....dare I say my mother BUT that's common and uncalled for! That situation deserves more that a thank you.

I try to have my daughter send thank you notes when possible or at least a phone call.

ITS CALLED MANNERS and there seems to be a total lack of them when it comes to the youth these days.

[ivyagogo]

I remember this story. He got arrested because of a bunch of "friends", right? I'm sure he's thankful, but he's an obnixious teenager. You'll get your thanks from him, it just might take a bit (or a lot) longer.