You now remind me SB of another board member who would repeatedly begin his posts after quoting mine with the word RUBBISH. When I would bring it to their attention that this was wrong, rude and reflected on their personality/life values, they would apologise.
Yet it wouldn’t be long before my posts would be once again termed RUBBISH by them, like only within a short period of a week.
Dunno if it was a short term memory thing or the effect of the moderators who informed me that they had contacted this individual on numerous occasions about their behaviour?
Turns out this individual appears a little more respectful to myself and others too these days which is a good thing & I can only hope it’ll last, but then who knows?
In retrospect, if that’s what it takes, well what can I say, it’s a board improvement thing in the long term, well done moderators for having people change their rude ways.
I won’t mention their name because simply, I am a gentleman.
How unspeakable ugly and disrespectful for one DD board member brother to refer to another DD board member brother’s post as boring and sentimental bull.
Like, Where’s the respect?
If you can’t agree with me, on this that’s fine, it reflects who you are.
I might add that In addition your particular perspective also insults those who actually “like” my post/s or respond with their own posts in favour of mine (on the back of your post), but here’s the thing,
I wouldn’t expect you to have such awareness for others,
it’s a sentiment thing ! Which you yourself consider “bull” to put it in your own words.
TBH, I never thought you could be so disrespectful but we live and learn.
Rest assured, I won’t term your posts as boring because that would have me lacking in good and appropriate manners and respect for my fellow board member/s.
Thing is, I make my own choices just as you make your own.
I said please don’t take any offence within my post as I explained my reasons and dd beliefs, that is showing respect and by saying this I’m being diplomatic and courteous in my approach to you and my perspective.
It appears that in your mind, you are the only one on this board allowed to describe, explain your fandom, how you live with dd in your life while also express your dd beliefs
YET
It seems NO one else can do it in quite the same manner
After all, in this case when done in ATRs own style, (so to speak), directly from his DD bonafide heart, you refer to his thoughts as boring and full of sentimental BS,
how interesting then SB.
You know this “sentimental” aspect of who I love, be it my wife, family and friends and obviously including my band DD, is the EXACT thing that keeps my relationships with them all umm, “ALIVE” if you know what I mean? but then I wouldn’t expect everyone to understand this especially yourself.
A world 🌎 without sentiment is not one I wish to live in……….PERIOD !
Not sure about you tho?
You need to know, I have never EVER considered any of your posts as boring or sentimental bull (your words not mine) but here’s the thing
Both yourself and I are RADICALLY different people in general including DD people at that and this is evident in your last post, which proves it.
& just for the record, I won’t be taking a hiatus from the board any more in future because I believe that the board is a much richer place these days, the DD positivity is abundant & just as the Duran Durans Future Past LP which IMO feels great in every way (except for 5%) So does this board IMO feel great (except for only 2%).
Lastly I never PMd you a response considering you never extended me the PM courtesy but rather publicly shared/described your thoughts of my post, publicly in a general board post.
Ohh and please don’t thoughtlessly respond that “I’m over reacting” because that indeed would be insulting the act of anything sentimental & will suggest that acceptance of others sentimental feelings is NOT your thing.
Wow After The Rain... that was a lot you had to let out.
But where was YOUR respect a few months ago in your response to the guy ranting about DDs new song?
Did you already forget about all the disgusting things you threw out? Did you apologise to the guy who might be a lurker here?
I think you stepped over that too easily, and i don't think you are the one to tell others about respect.
Hi Pop Trash
Not sure what you yourself would let out if someone was to respond to any of your posts as boring, that you had included your farts & burps into the post, (not quite sure how one would do that?, but there's different types on this board with wild imaginations, that's for sure), that my DD thoughts are sentimental bull s h i t including I'm weird just to name a few. Coz that's SBs description.
I'd love your thoughts on this PT.
I sincerely hope you have never experienced this but rather experienced quoted posts (in response to your posts) with some intellect.
All I was doing was justifying why I think that it was a good idea that DD should work with Moroder.
Now let me ask, wouldn't it be a better board if people's posts were sentimental/honest opinions, coming from the heart rather than child like name teasing?
Ive explained all this to you considering you have previously mentioned that you don't read long posts, So I'm not sure if you understand the difference here between SBs posts and ATRs, you may have not read my initial post?
Just trying to help, no pun intended.
In regards to the post which you are implying?
I believe it's one which was deleted so I'm not sure why you're not PMing me?
Thereby I'm extending you the same courtesy.
I believe you feel I weight shamed this individual.
You need to understand I never EVER weight shamed this individual, I'm aware some other members did.
I woke up that morning and while having breakfast unwillingly came across it. I say unwillingly because it was posted by another member and I clicked on it.
Not posted by the person in the video themselves.
I did express my disapproval of the way the man on the video presented himself, I don't deny that. On the video they were disapproving of DDs current works and in doing so had presented themselves in public expressing their DD thoughts with no shirt on if you remember correctly.
I like them, am a middle aged man and I have been taught it IS a respectful thing when in public to wear a shirt eg wether I'm on a zoom meeting, posting a video on youtube or leaving the house for that matter,
You know what I'm saying right. I'll add that this includes combing my hair, becoming somewhat presentable. Maybe I'm weird for feeling this way yet I do present myself with a shirt (and and pants for the record) when in public, because I DO RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE in my vicinity eg those who get to see me.
It therefore is a "respect" for others thing, that I put a shirt on at least when I want people to focus on what I'm saying/take me seriously which includes when I virtually present myself in public too.
It is ok if we disagree however.
But mark my words, I never EVER mentioned anything about this gentleman's body shape and I know someone who has a screen shot of this thread yet it would be inappropriate to ask them to post it just to prove my point to you considering the whole thread was deleted by the moderators and irregardless of you bringing up the situation up now.
If this was a woman presenting herself in such manner I would feel EXACTLY the same, I won't discriminate, never have, put a shirt on if you wish to have people to listen to you, in most cases they will RESPECT you and the public doing the viewing won't be distracted, again just the same if you were a bloke.
At the end of the day, it's respect to others thing, but it's ok if you disagree with me.
You know the in the following days a video was posted of this same gentleman, this time he decided to put a shirt on and you know what, I was one of the first to "like" that post and I believe he achieved many many more "likes" from other board members too.
Lastly and just as importantly, because you brought up a deleted thread mentioning that this gentleman may be lurking here?, I cannot dismiss the fact that the man on the video was you and TBH I can't help thinking this and it's possible other board members are feeling the same as me.
If this is the case
Allow me to sincerely apologise to you PT for expressing my disappointment that morning due to the fact you were not wearing a shirt in that public video you created for people to see.
I seriously mean this now, hand on my heart and I can see how by making a mention of your body image with no shirt on could have been interpreted as a weight shame interpretation. Yet it wasn't my intent and never would be?
TBH I would have rather seen you or whoever was in that video wearing a shirt just as I wear one when in public.
If it wasn't you and you know who it was, please send me a PM and I will apologise for my post that day like directly to our DD brother I mean.
If you are unable to do this fair enough, I understand and as mentioned I get that it's a possibility it might be you.
Again then I am sorry, please accept my apology considering it was mistakenly thought of and seemed to be weight shaming, because I made no mention of that whatsoever in my post.
Sincerely now, help me apologise (even if I was mistaken) because that's who I am and what makes me a human being.
You know, never EVER have I been afraid to apologise and that includes even when being mistaken for something which I never implied.
Help me then,
How do I apologise to someone if I don't know who they are?
How does one do this